Practice
Makes Perfect
by Sharon Kidder
--San Leandro Times, Thursday June 11, 1998
You’re planning the perfect wedding and
there is no shortage of information or advice at your fingertips.
Magazines, web sites, videos and books galore all have ideas on
how it’s done.
But whether you’re inviting 30 or 300,
a wedding can be a nerve-wracking and expensive experience.
You may be tempted to scratch the wedding rehearsal as an unnecessary
frill. But is it?
It’s no coincidence that the wedding
rehearsal and festivities surrounding it are the responsibility
of the groom and his family. At the very moment the bride and her
family are over-whelmed with last-minute details, the groom’s
family steps in to provide a much needed time-out.
The rehearsal is often held on the evening
prior to the wedding day, with a banquet afterwards to which the
entire bridal party and out-of-town guests are invited.
The rehearsal is an important event in its
own right. What occurs at the rehearsal sets the tone for what happens
at the wedding and thereafter.
Whether it’s an intimate evening at home
or a meal in a restaurant, the rehearsal can become a team building
experience for those who will play key roles in the couple’s
wedding and future life together.
The key players need to know exactly what is
expected of them- and the others involved. A combined script and
timeline for the day is essential for the wedding “team”.
And it’s not just the ceremony that needs
to be rehearsed. Toast need to be fine-tuned too and what better
timethan at the rehearsal dinner. That is a more appropriate occasion
for extemporaneous “this is your life” speeches.
The wedding reception, on the other hand, is a time for the guests,
who have been patient and polite during the ceremony, to socialize
and chat about the lovely couple.
The bride and groom’s gifts to their
wedding party are traditionally given at the beginning of the rehearsal
dinner.
But even more important to the wedding day is the gift of a well-prepared
team which will ensure that things run smoothly for the happy couple.
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